Transitioning from a vanilla relationship to exploring a more adventurous or nontraditional lifestyle is an exciting journey, but it’s not always one that begins with a clear starting point. Often, couples start noticing subtle (or not-so-subtle) signs that their relationship is evolving beyond traditional boundaries.

So, how do you know you’re “losing your vanilla?” Here are some relationship signals that may indicate you’re ready to embrace something new:

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. . Holiday Event Spotlight: World Edition

December 2024 Group Sponsored Post (not indexed, hidden page on Media)

*Languages: English and Dutch only

Publishing date: December 1st, 2024

Celebrate this holiday season in red-hot style at these sexy swinger lifestyle events around the world.

Party your holidays away at these world-class swinger events in our SDC Holiday Event Spotlight!

Get ready to play dress up and meet other festive open-minded couples and singles. 

Check out below for these unmissable, sexy swinger events this holiday season!

Let’s kick off the New Year with a bang!

Shivaz end-of-year offer on Thursdays

The dark end of the year is in sight. It’s getting colder outside, but together, we’ll make it extra cozy, sexy, and snug inside.

Until the end of the year, you only pay a €95 entrance fee per couple on Thursday instead of €115.

Shivaz is a unique concept — stylish, urban with a touch of art, and exclusive for couples.

Due to its relaxed atmosphere, full of sizzling eroticism but with respect for every couple and the woman in particular, both experienced swingers and newcomers alike immediately feel at home. Open every week from Thursday to Sunday. 

Read our guests’ experiences on our website and SDC.
Or even better: experience the warmth of Shivaz for yourselves!
Please always reserve ahead: Via sms, tel. 0032495/44.23.97.

See you soon!
Team Shivaz

SDC Special: December at Club Paradise — The Most Seductive Club in Amsterdam!

December is buzzing with desire at Club Paradise, the place where all your senses are stimulated. Whether you are here for a first-time visit or are a regular guest, Club Paradise immediately feels like a world of pure sensuality. When you are a newcomer, you’ll receive a seductive tour to introduce you to all the exciting possibilities.

Put on your most daring outfit — ladies, that naughty set or sparkling dress, and gentlemen, tight boxer shorts or stylish clubwear. Dress sexy and to impress! Feel the tension rise as you explore the club and its intimate corners, erotic spaces, and saunas.

In December, we have three special, festive, couples-only (+ ladies) editions full of extras:

December 7 – Seduce Me: Naughty Saint Nicholas
Those who are sweet get treats… those who are naughty get more.

December 21 – Couples Fantasy
Sensuality and unique sounds (Moombathon, Latin House).

December 28 – Couples Paradise
With photographer Rolf Maas, photo booth, and a naughty goody bag.

Price: €90 per couple all-in, including welcome cocktail and buffet. SDC members receive a €5 discount when booking via info@club-paradise.nl stating your SDC name.

Make December unforgettable at Club Paradise — where passion and fun come together.

High temperatures at Steamworks

With us, you can keep yourself and others nice and warm.

Steamworks has been renovated! 

We offer 1000 m2 of fun and relaxation with various saunas, a steam bath, a swimming pool, and a whirlpool. But don't forget the top floor, where 150 m2 is set up as a "play area." We would love to see you in our renovated sauna.

On both Mondays (everyone) and Wednesdays (couples only), we also have a new all-inclusive concept for you.

So don’t hesitate — visit us soon and become a member of our group here on SDC!

Eroroma: Pleasure4All X-Mass Party

Welcome to Eroroma, the ultimate lifestyle and swingers club, where the boundaries of pleasure are pushed.

With us, everything revolves around connection, discovery, and, above all, fun! Under our inspiring themes, such as *Pleasure4All,* we offer a unique experience that stimulates all the senses.

On Saturday, December 21st, we have a special Christmas edition: Pleasure4All X-Mass Party!

"Discover the sensual world of Pleasure4All, where lovers of all genders and orientations come together for an unforgettable evening full of seduction, passion, and pleasure."

During our X-Mass Party, there will be a clothing stand from EXtase and a photographer (special space) present for a photo shoot for a small fee. See our site, eroroma.nl.

Steam Punk Gala: A new year's eve celebration featuring TL Jentgens at Caliente Resort

Send off 2024 in fashion. And we do mean fashion! Join all your sexy friends for one night to remember: the last night of 2024. It’s Steam Punk Gala: A New Year’s Eve Celebration.

The grand party begins at 7 PM. Special guest TL Jentgens takes us through midnight with a special performance beginning at 10 PM. 

It’s a party you don’t want to miss, so snag your TICKETS!

Contact us for Day and Evening Passes or to Book a Room Overnight.

Caliente is a full resort that is clothing-optional and lifestyle-friendly. YOU can be YOU here. And you don’t need a passport or clothes! Dress up or dress down — either way, just have fun!

Visit for a day or join us as your Vacation Club!

Learn more about Caliente Club & Resorts at calienteresorts.com or call 813-996-3700 x3203.

Discover the renewed PartyPlayers Together with Bad Santa: why are you so naughty?

As some of you already know, Party Players is renewing.

We are tackling everything from the jacuzzi to the bathroom, entrance, and more!

Experience the new PP yourself! For example, on Saturday, December 21st, during our Bad Santa edition, we will have TWO enchanting experiences in ONE breathtaking evening and night:

WHY ARE YOU SO NAUGHTY? and TECHNO SANTA IN DA HOUSE!

Couples and ladies, awaken your erotic senses and get ready for our two themes.

Wrap yourself (completely or partially) in SEDUCING RED and let your NAUGHTY DESIRES run wild because RED is the color of love, passion, and unbridled sexiness. 

In our BAR, the warm café vibe is created where horny fun and exciting encounters are central — exactly as you are used to from our Swingers Café evenings.

We’ll have DJs who turn things upside down with delicious danceable music that make you happy and horny. 

In the back of our DISCOTHEQUE, you will find an entirely different world waiting for you….
There, you will find our dance floor of seduction, where the sensual sounds of techno will embrace your body! 

View all the information about this seductive evening, including Happy Hour, where you only pay a 100 euro entrance fee as a couple. 

See you December 21st!
Reservations can be made via reserveringen@partyplayers.nl or by phone!

End-of-year drinks at INDECENT

Yes, you heard that right! — Our famous coffee and tea are always there, but on this last shopping Sunday of the year, we'll also throw in a few bottles of prosecco... so on Sunday, December 29th, from 11:00 to 18:00, come and have a look, come and pee! We are open for shopping Sundays from 11:00 to 18:00.

At Indecent in Beverwijk, we sell sexy clothing for fetish parties and (couples) club visits. But you can also find a nice range of clubwear clothing and accessories for a sexy festival outfit or a party at home. In addition to clothing, we also sell BDSM accessories, sex toys, and other erotic items. We have extensively tested everything we select for you for quality, durability, and comfort. We only sell things that make us happy!

Greetings, and until then, Esther, Myra, Simone, Nathalie & that guy
www.indecent.nl

NEW YEAR’S EVE — THE GREAT GATSBY PARTY!

December 31, 2024 – Great Gatsby New Year's Eve Marbella 2025! Wicked Club invites party-goers to ring in the New Year in true Roaring ‘20s fashion. Gatsby’s WICKED CLUB will be a trip back into the 1920s, when women were known as eccentric flappers, and men spared no expense to be the big cheese.

THIS IS A COUPLES & LADIES ONLY EVENT, sponsored by SDC!

Join us for the most upscale VIP-only NYE in MARBELLA at the iconic WICKED CHÂTEAU!

Dress up in your best 1920s attire and get ready to ring in the New Year in grand Gatsby style, starting with WELCOME CHAMPAGNE and DOOR GIVEAWAYS!

We’ll have a gala dinner from 21:00– 23:00, followed by dancing, and SHOWGIRLS TO ENTERTAIN YOU ALL NIGHT LONG!

Each ticket purchase is prepayment for your choice of 4 beverages.

Guests are invited to dress in their best Roaring ‘20s theme accessories, and festive party favors will also be provided.

Plus, this multi-room party will have surprises throughout the night and a champagne toast you won’t soon forget.

DJ will be spinning all your favorite open-format music, from EDM to Top 40 & Hip-Hop. Gatsby's WICKED CLUB NYE will be your best option to have the time of your life!

ENTRANCE PRICES (online pre-paid more at the door if available):

COUPLE: €90 (welcome champagne + 4 drinks)

LADIES: €20 (welcome champagne)

SINGLE GENTS: €150 (welcome champagne + 2 drinks)
*Select single gents will only be allowed if accompanied by a couple upon request.

GALA DINNER - €45/pers.

For table and bottle service reservations, please contact us for VIP packages.

Eroxx: New Year’s Eve Celebration

Dear friends,
This year, you can join us again for the coolest party of the year in your favorite club.

Due to the great success and turnout before, we will have two options so that everyone who comes for dinner also has the time and space to enjoy the party to the fullest.

The first option includes dinner and a second for people who can join the party from 23:00.

A maximum of 130 couples can book the option that includes dinner for €250. For them, the doors will open at 18:30, and we will welcome our guests with the necessary bubbles and surprising amuses from our chefs. Our covered garden will also have a winter bar with these delicacies.

From 19:30, everyone can take a seat in our Pop-Up restaurant, which is now partly set up in our disco. Until about 22:00, you can enjoy a fine, four-course menu served at the table. Our chefs will pull out all the stops when assembling this exclusive menu! This will be a TOP-quality dinner, never seen before in a swinger club!! From 01:00, we will open the super deluxe night buffet. So again, this is not an ordinary night buffet… It will be “the” place where, until four in the morning, you can still sate your late-night hunger. The foodies among you should definitely not miss this party.

From 22:30, the doors will open for another maximum of 150 couples who have chosen the option without dinner but with the night buffet. For this second option, you pay 175€ as a couple.

After the countdown, with the necessary kisses and bubbles, the BIG PARTY will start with two big DJs — Dominico Roberti (Tomorrowland, Noxx, Versus, Discotheque, Caviar de nuit, and more) and Dj Mbargo (Ibiza, Ocean Club Marbella, Beach festival, etc.). They will provide the necessary atmosphere and ambiance until five in the morning!

Check out how to buy tickets and what delicious food is on the menu!

Other plans or fully booked? Then keep a close eye on our events calendar and come to Nina's B-day Party on January 25!

See you in Eroxx!

SILVER SPACE BALL: NEW YEAR’S EVE

Tuesday, December 31, 2024

To finish 2024 and start 2025 in the best possible way at Krystal Club, we have planned two different types of evenings.

1. STARTING AT 8:30 PM: LUXURY DINNER (ELEGANT DINNER FOR 30 COUPLES ONLY).
Participation is limited to only 30 selected couples for a luxury dinner and VIP treatment that lasts all night (table and seat guaranteed, champagne for midnight toast, waiters on hand).

2. STARTING AT 10:30 PM: WELCOME 2025 OPEN TO ALL BY RESERVATION.
For those not attending the dinner, the doors open at 10:30 pm for the New Year's Eve Gala: a sensual party with fine cocktails, wines, and a superb buffet.

At the stroke of midnight, the atmosphere will be hot, with the Toast for all, and the party won’t stop until dawn.

As this is one of the biggest events in the winter program, advance reservations are strongly recommended.

For reservations and questions, email info@krystal-club.it or 3312434209. Reservations are already open! We recommend that you register as soon as possible and pay the deposit to confirm your participation.

Please note: all reservations (dinners and parties) are valid only after payment of a €50 deposit. The evening (not the dinner) will also be open to a few, very select singles. 

New Year’s Eve Buddha



Buddha friends, 10, 9, 8, 7,…
OK, just wait a little longer because we are going to have a real party before we start the New Year.

We provide you with two lavish options:
Option 1: with Dinner from 7 PM
Option 2: from 11 PM finger food only
This year, we wish to spoil you extra with a culinary trip, and you can honor your most beautiful memories of 2024 in Buddha.

We would like to welcome you from 7 PM for the first welcome drink.
From 8 PM on, we start with a walking dinner. Many refined, sexy dishes will be served. 
View here what you can expect from our delicious menu.

We expect you at 11 PM at the latest in your sexiest lingerie so that we can start the New Year in an exciting and thrilling way. 

Resident DJs Mike, Kevin Plusquin, and Johan will provide the tastiest beats as always.

We close the party at 5 AM.

All-in entrance:
Option 1 · Doors open from 7 PM · Couple + Dinner €185 · Single Lady + Dinner €85 · Couple + Single Male + Dinner €270
Option 2 · Doors open from 11 PM · Couple €150 · Single Lady €50 · Couple + Single Male €235

See you in Buddha!

Can’t get enough of these sexy holiday parties for swingers around the world? Check out more lifestyle events on SDC!

3. You’ve Started Talking About Swinging or the Lifestyle

Has the idea of visiting a lifestyle resort, club, or party come up in casual conversation? Maybe one of you joked about going to a swinger’s event, and instead of shutting it down quickly as a joke, you both got a little curious.

Why it matters: Even lighthearted conversations about the lifestyle are often a gateway to more serious discussions about your desires and boundaries.

4. You’re Both Exploring Sexy Communities Online

If you’ve created accounts on platforms like SDC, Kasidie, or even explored social forums like Reddit’s swinging or polyamory groups, you’re dipping your toes into the lifestyle world. This is often one of the first steps couples take as they begin exploring.

Sign to look for: You find yourselves more excited about these spaces than other traditional hobbies or online groups.

5. You’re Attending Parties or Events “Just to See”

Maybe you’ve gone to a meet and greet, a lifestyle friendly resort, or even a themed party, telling yourselves, “We’re just here to observe.” The key is, even without participating, you’re taking steps toward embracing this new world.

Why it matters: Curiosity often leads to comfort, which then leads to participation.

6. You’re Discussing Boundaries and Comfort Zones

Conversations about boundaries and comfort zones signal a readiness to move beyond vanilla. These discussions often include:

• What you’d be okay trying.

• What feels off limits.

• How to communicate if something feels uncomfortable.

Why it matters: The more openly you discuss boundaries, the more trust you’re building, which is very important in non vanilla relationships.

7. You’re Experimenting with Kink or Roleplay

Perhaps you’ve started incorporating new elements into your intimacy, like light bondage, roleplay, or trying out toys together. This willingness to explore new dynamics shows you’re both eager to break free from traditional routines.

Tip: Start slow and communicate throughout the process to ensure you’re both enjoying the experience.

8. You Feel More Connected Than Ever

A hallmark signal of losing your vanilla is feeling a deeper bond with your partner. These new explorations often bring couples closer together because they require communication, trust, and mutual respect beyond what is considered “normal”.

Sign to watch for: You’re both more open, honest, and excited about your relationship than ever before.

9. You’re Open to Meeting Like Minded People

You might find yourself drawn to events, communities, or friendships with others who share a more adventurous approach to relationships. If you’re actively seeking out these connections, it’s a strong signal that you’re ready to leave vanilla behind.

10. You’re Talking About “Rules” Instead of Saying “No”

Instead of dismissing an idea outright, you’re discussing what it would take to make it work. For example, one of you suggests soft swapping, and the other responds with, “Maybe, but only if…” rather than “Absolutely not.”

Why it matters: This shows a change in mindset from “hell nah” to “hmmm.”

Embracing the Change

Losing your vanilla isn’t a bad thing; it means your relationship is reaching a new level in new and exciting ways. The key to this fun transition is communication, trust, and mutual exploration. If you’re seeing these signals in your relationship, it might be time to sit down and discuss what’s next for your journey together.

Remember, there’s no “right” way to explore non-traditional relationships — only the way that works for you and your partner. Whether you’re a newbie or jumping into the lifestyle, the most important thing is to embrace the journey.

So, what’s your next step? Your non-vanilla adventure awaits!