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Swinging 101: Welcome to the Swingers Lifestyle!

Whether you’re a newbie or an experienced swinger, we’ll guide your exciting journey into the open lifestyle. Get expert tips on how to talk to your partner about swinging, what you need to know before opening up your relationship, common swinger conflicts and how to resolve them, what to know before you go to a swingers club, how to meet other swingers, how to find a unicorn, how to have a threesome, how to be a hotwife, and much, much more!

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Newbies in the Lifestyle

Starting your swinging journey can be exciting, but it can also be intimidating. We’ve been there! We’ll help introduce you to the lifestyle and the rules of swinging, swingers etiquette, what to know before you go from monogamy to a swinging relationship, how to navigate swingers clubs and parties, what to do if swinging goes wrong, and how to start exploring threesomes and group sex as a single swinger or as a couple.

Ethical Non-Monogamy vs. Consensual Non-Monogamy
  Taylor Sparks
If you've been exploring open relationships, polyamory, or alternative relationship structures, you've likely come across the terms Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) and Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM).
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Newbie Swingers: How to Enter the Swinging Lifestyle
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Learning how to own your swinging debut and swing smoothly and safely.
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Q&A

Do you have questions about swinging, relationships, and sexuality? We have answers! Get advice about popular topics like the swinger lifestyle, hotwifing, open relationships, sexual health tips, and more from our team of experts. Check out our Q&A section below for some recent and popular questions, or ask us your own!

What do we need to know before we visit our first swingers club?

So, you and your partner are interested in going to a Swingers Club. Well, we happen to have a video for you! Watch along as we give you 5 of our best tips to make sure you have a great time at the club! WATCH IT HERE...

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What should we expect from a BDSM play party?

A BDSM play party is quite different than a swinging one! There tend to be more rules and guidelines at these events. Mistress Cyan covers the kinkster party essentials, code of conduct, and protocol behavior, in this article. READ MORE...

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Can friends be sexual with each other?

Sometimes, curiosity gets the best of us. If you're ready to break the ice with sexy friends, READ MORE...

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Do you have any advice for going on our first date as swingers?

Dating in the lifestyle has its own dynamics and differs from conventional dating. I cover all the practical tips, including using code words, spotting red flags, and having fun in THIS EPISODE OF MY PODCAST.

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How do I become a Bull for a Hotwife?

Tabitha Beaumont shares everything you need to know in this in-depth guide to being a better Bull! She covers the how, the what, and the who of recreational sex with a Hotwife. READ MORE HERE...

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Are there any secret signs that identify someone as a swinger?

It would be nice if there were some clear signs to let everyone know! Like any good secret society, there are plenty of myths surrounding the "secret signs" of swinging, so SDC.com is here to let you in on a few of the urban legends surrounding swinging. READ MORE...

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Swingers Terms Glossary

Think you know everything about swinging? Guess again! Our glossary will go in-depth on terms you thought you knew and teach you words you’ve never heard before. Learn more about swinging, swapping, hotwifing, kink and the sexiest subjects in the lifestyle.
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Swinger and Hotwife Quizzes

Take one of our exclusive swinging and hotwifing quizzes and uncover more about yourself, your relationships, your partners, and your fantasies! Find out if you're ready for the swinging lifestyle, if you’re a jealous partner, if your relationship is ready for hotwifing, whether swinging with soft swap versus full swap is best for you, and dive into other playful open lifestyle quizzes. Compare your results with your partner(s) and friends to spark fun and sexy conversations!

Soft vs Full Swap: Which Swinging Style Is Right for You?
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Thinking about diving into the swinging lifestyle, but not sure how far you’re ready to go? For some, keeping things at a soft swap level (kissing, touching, and oral play) is the perfect blend of sexy exploration and emotional safety. For others, a full swap is where the real excitement lives. This swinging quiz will help you uncover which type of play fits your desires, your boundaries, and your relationship best. Answer honestly, and see if you’re more soft and sensual, or ready to go all… the… way! Take this quick quiz to find out if you and your partner are ready for soft swap or full swap!
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Same Room, Separate Room, or Both: Which Is Best For Me?
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Which Swinging Style Fits You Best? When it comes to the swinging lifestyle, one of the biggest questions couples face is whether they prefer same room play, separate room play, or both. For some, watching their partner in action is the ultimate turn-on. For others, privacy makes the experience hotter and more relaxed. Plenty of swinger couples find themselves somewhere in between, depending on the vibe of the night. This quiz will help you discover which style best suits your desires (same room, separate room, or a flexible balance of both).  Answer this same room versus separate room swinging quiz honestly, and find out what keeps your lifestyle couples play sexy, comfortable, and connected!
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Are You Ready for Swinging?
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Curious about the swinging lifestyle, but not sure if you and your partner are really ready to dive into an open relationship? Opening your monogamous relationship to new experiences with other partners can be thrilling, sexy, and deeply rewarding, but it also takes trust, communication, knowledge, and emotional stamina. This quiz will help you discover whether you’re prepared to take the leap into the world of swinging, or if you might want to do a little more groundwork first. Answer the questions in this swinging quiz honestly, keep an open mind, and see where your (and your partner’s) desires and comfort levels really stand. Find out if you and your partner are ready for a swinging relationship!
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Meet Swingers

SDC is the perfect place to meet swingers near you, whether you’re dating online, looking for swingers parties or seeking the hottest swingers clubs in your area.
Find Swingers Near Me

Local swingers are just one click away! Check out SDC members in your area with our innovative geo-targeting that helps connect you with the sexiest singles and couples all around the world.

Local swingers are just one click away! Check out SDC members in your area with our innovative geo-targeting that helps connect you with the sexiest singles and couples all around the world.
Swingers Parties

Looking for a sexy party near you? Find the hottest parties in your area to meet like-minded people and couples, from erotic theme parties to kinky fetish nights.

Looking for a sexy party near you? Find the hottest parties in your area to meet like-minded people and couples, from erotic theme parties to kinky fetish nights.
Swingers Clubs

Have a sexy date night out and meet other open-minded people at clubs created just for your pleasure. Check out our listings, ratings, and details of swingers and sex clubs around the world.

Have a sexy date night out and meet other open-minded people at clubs created just for your pleasure. Check out our listings, ratings, and details of swingers and sex clubs around the world.
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Sexiest Cities

Where do swingers and open-minded people love to party and hook up? Check out the sexiest cities where swingers can run wild, from popular hotspots like Las Vegas, South Florida, Amsterdam and many more. We feature the hottest swingers and fetish clubs, erotic parties, sex shops, bars, restaurants, festivals and more! You’ll also find exclusive SDC member benefits at our partnering clubs and businesses. Find the perfect places to travel and explore all your deepest desires and fantasies.
Atlanta, Georgia

Find all of the swinging lifestyle information in the Atlanta area.
If rooftop bars, breweries, nightclubs, and speakeasies are your thing, Atlanta is a great choice destination for swingers! Georgia is the Peach State, which is a highly erotic fruit, and yes, there is lots to find to inspire you to get your sexy on! It helps that it’s easy to get to from literally anywhere in the world. The swingers' community and lifestyle scene in Atlanta is a happy one and very much alive. Atlanta is a great lifestyle destination, and you can plan to stop over to explore the area on your way to other destinations as well.

Find all of the swinging lifestyle information in the Atlanta area.If rooftop bars, breweries, nightclubs, and speakeasies are your thing, Atlanta is a great choice destination for swingers! Georgia is the Peach State, which is a highly erotic fruit, and yes, there is lots to find to inspire you to get your sexy on! It helps that it’s easy to get to from literally anywhere in the world. The swingers' community and lifestyle scene in Atlanta is a happy one and very much alive. Atlanta is a great lifestyle destination, and you can plan to stop over to explore the area on your way to other destinations as well.
California

The erotic pulse of the State of California is palpable. Los Angeles, San Francisco, and San Diego are most certainly sublime places for sexy players of the like-minded kind looking to unlock their fantasies. With a line-up of naughty soirees for the bi-curious, erotic daters, swingers, kinksters, dungeon seekers, and/or the otherwise hedonistically inclined, the many mansions, clubs, and parties all around the towns are an awesome way to test the waters and/or rock the boat for novices and well-versed players alike.

The erotic pulse of the State of California is palpable. Los Angeles, San Francisco, and San Diego are most certainly sublime places for sexy players of the like-minded kind looking to unlock their fantasies. With a line-up of naughty soirees for the bi-curious, erotic daters, swingers, kinksters, dungeon seekers, and/or the otherwise hedonistically inclined, the many mansions, clubs, and parties all around the towns are an awesome way to test the waters and/or rock the boat for novices and well-versed players alike.
Chicago

Find all lifestyle information and more about swingers in the Chicago area.

Chicago may be known internationally as “The Windy City,” but swingers know it as a city of exciting nightlife and sexy fun. By day, visitors can explore art galleries, wellness retreats, and world-class restaurants and shop along the famous Magnificent Mile — but swingers come out to party in speakeasy style when the sun goes down over the lakeshore! BDSM enthusiasts, non-monogamous couples, and adventurous singles will all find something to satisfy their desires in the lively, sexy city of Chicago.

Find all lifestyle information and more about swingers in the Chicago area. Chicago may be known internationally as “The Windy City,” but swingers know it as a city of exciting nightlife and sexy fun. By day, visitors can explore art galleries, wellness retreats, and world-class restaurants and shop along the famous Magnificent Mile — but swingers come out to party in speakeasy style when the sun goes down over the lakeshore! BDSM enthusiasts, non-monogamous couples, and adventurous singles will all find something to satisfy their desires in the lively, sexy city of Chicago.
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Swingers

Explore the lifestyle with our swingers articles, podcasts and videos, created for your edu-tainment! Learn the hottest tips on how to swing from experienced swingers and leading relationship experts.

Polyamory or Monogamy in a Swinger Relationship
  Maddy V
Swinging: it seems like a simple concept, but within the swinger world, you have couples who have a monogamous relationship and those who have no problem with polyamory.
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Member Questions Series II
  Maddy V
In these Members Questions Series, we want to hear your answers.
  Maddy V
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Swingers’ Guide to Vegas After Dark: Beyond the Clubs
  SDC Media
Whether you're swinging in Las Vegas or enjoying a week-long couples getaway, here’s your definitive guide to everything sultry and seductive to do between parties.
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Swingers Lifestyle Travel Events

Hook up and play with swingers from all over the world at our luxurious and naughty resort take-overs and cruises. SDC Travel invites you to join one of our upcoming swinger travel events, for a truly fulfilling 100% lifestyle experience, no matter how you choose to indulge! When you wish to take your swinger lifestyle experiences to the next level, our international swinger holidays are perfect for you!

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Swingers Lifestyle Travel Events

Hook up and play with swingers from all over the world at our luxurious and naughty resort take-overs and cruises. SDC Travel invites you to join one of our upcoming swinger travel events, for a truly fulfilling 100% lifestyle experience, no matter how you choose to indulge! When you wish to take your swinger lifestyle experiences to the next level, our international swinger holidays are perfect for you!

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Let Us Guide You Through the Open Lifestyle!

SDC and our expert contributors and educators from all around the world are here to guide you in everything from how to talk to your partner about swinging and different kinds of open relationships, what you need to know before opening up your relationship, common swinger conflicts and how to resolve them, what to know before you go to a swingers club, how to meet other swingers, how to find a unicorn, how to be a hotwife, and much, much more!