Why You Keep Repeating the Same Relationship Patterns
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Are your thoughts sabotaging your ethical non-monogamous (ENM) relationships? The Feedback Loop in ENM Explained.
Let’s talk about the Feedback Loop — the silent force behind repeated arguments, jealousy, insecurity, and unmet needs. In this video, I break down how your repeated thoughts form beliefs, trigger emotional reactions, and lead to actions that reinforce the very situations you’re trying to avoid.
You’ll learn:
- What the Feedback Loop is (and why it matters in ENM)
- How your past monogamous beliefs still influence your poly or swinging relationships.
- How to interrupt the loop and build healthier patterns
- A real-life ENM scenario that shows this in action
- What to do next to rewire those beliefs — for good.
Ready to break the loop? Click my banner below to visit OrganicLoven.com, where you can grab your copy of An African-American Guide to Ethical Non-Monogamy (Workbook now available!), book a FREE 20-Minute Clarity Call to talk about your ENM goals, take the DISC Personality Assessment to improve your communication (solo or with partners), and more.
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