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Improvements
- Forum Page revamp now focuses more on the content rather than member profiles.
- Video Page Filter now includes sort by shortest and longest videos.
- Header Search Upgrade gives you the option to multi-select using toggles.
- Improved Map View added to New Members, Online, Travel & Speed Date pages.
Coming soon….
- New Chatroom design
- Membership Gifts for Lifetime Members
- Forums available on profile view
- SDC Stories lets you post photos and videos that stay live for just 24 hours — perfect for spontaneous updates, behind-the-scenes moments, or anything you want to share without it living on your profile forever!
Quiz: What's Your Cuckolding Couple Style?
Cuckolding is one of the most misunderstood dynamics in the lifestyle, and also one of the most delicious. Strip away the stereotypes and what you'll find is a couple built on trust, generosity, honest desire and a whole lot of communication. Some cuckold couples live for the slow tease. Others love the confidence of watching openly. Some crave the emotional intimacy that comes after, and some just love not knowing what the night will bring.
So… what's your cuckolding style as a couple?
Answer these 7 questions, and we'll add up your points at the end to reveal whether you and your partner are The Wildcards, The Proud Admirers, The Deep Connectors, or The Playful Teasers.
Bonus for couples: Take this quiz together, then compare your results to reveal your shared cuckolding couple dynamic!
SDC Book Club
Welcome to the SDC Book Club, where we feature exciting books recommended by lifestyle-related Authors, Educators, and even SDC Members.
This month, check out Before the Door Opens by Mike & Julie.
Starting the lifestyle or already in it? Communication is what makes or breaks it.
Before the Door Opens: A Communication Journal for Couples Exploring the Swinger Lifestyle
Not the club. Not the rules. The conversations: before the night, after the night, and a year in. This journal gets couples having them. Each partner answers the same questions alone, then you swap and compare: the rules you think you want, consent and health, jealousy, check-ins before a night out, debriefs after, and what to do when a night goes sideways.
For couples new to the lifestyle, thinking about it, or already in it and finding it harder than expected. Written by a couple married 25 years who spent five years in the lifestyle.
Paperback on Amazon: https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0HL4112WB
Also check out Awakening The New Normal by Catherine Grant
Angelina is the good wife. Petite. Polite. Finance by day, Buckhead by night. Her husband Gavin still calls her Angel. He travels for work. She waits.
Then the house gets too quiet, and a hunger she has been ashamed of for years stops asking permission.
What starts as a secret in an empty condo becomes a marriage that has to tell the truth. Not the polite version. Not “I missed you” standing in for what she actually wants. Gavin does not run. He wants the lists. The rules. The new normal.
Each book is a complete, explicit short story in the same marriage. The heat climbs. The shame does not get the last word. Consent stays on the page. The tick does not go back to sleep.
Start with Awakening (Book 1). Then keep reading as Lina and Gavin find out what their marriage can hold when desire is no longer a secret.
Contests
Congratulations to PRINCEEUGENE for winning the Only One Prop photo contest and to LUIZEMONICACASAL for winning the Unicorn Chronicles writing contest.
Check out the latest contests with chances to WIN superb prizes! Prizes provided by: Sea Mountain Nude Resorts & Lifestyle Swinger Club, DV8 Dare Games, Orgie, Malibu Strings, Bijoux Indiscrets, Morgan Reynolds, Florida Lifestyler and STD Hero.
Click the links below to access, enter, or VOTE for the latest contests:
- New – “Once Upon a Playroom” – Writing Contest
- Current - White Night - Photo Contest
- Voting Underway - Passport to Pleasure – Video Contest
SDC Shop
Time for something new? Or just feel like adding a little extra SDC to your wardrobe?
For at home, at the club, on the go, or for that one occasion when you don’t mind being a little recognizable...
From T-shirts, tops and dresses to sweaters, cardigans and, of course, our super-comfy SDC bathrobes. Perfect for relaxing after a night at the club or simply lounging together at home… and even more fun when you personalise them with your own profile name.
But it’s not just about clothing… You’ll find plenty of other fun, practical and sometimes just a little naughty items in our shop.
Things you’ll want to keep for yourself… or give as a gift!
Fall Into Bed (& Breakfast)
November always somehow has that sweet spot where the air gets crisp, the nights get long, and staying in suddenly becomes the most exciting plan on your calendar. Our BNB listings are full of warm, welcoming spaces run by open-minded hosts who get it… because sometimes you just need a place that feels like yours for a little while.
Whether you’re sneaking away with your partner, rolling in with your people, or just craving something a little different, there’s a listing out there with your name all over it.
Hosting this November? It’s a great time to give your listing a little love. Swap in a photo that captures that warm, moody autumn atmosphere, and write something that makes people feel something when they read it. A cozy welcome drink, some ambient lighting, maybe a little something extra to make guests feel special from the moment they arrive. The little details go a long way and keep guests coming back.
What are you waiting for? Browse the listings and find your November escape here on SDC.
And if you’re ready to open your doors to new guests, don’t delay! Get started with our Business Profile Request form
Cruise News
Written in the Stars
Undressed under them
The Universe RSVP'd Yes to Celestial Cruise
Six nights. Six celestial theme nights - Golden Sunset to Satin & Silk Sunrise.
And a sky that is genuinely, verifiably showing off the entire week. This is the Celestial Cruise, and it's unlike anything we've ever built.
The full Pink Moon rises on the exact night of Moonlit Glow Night. The Lyrid meteor shower, one of the oldest in recorded history, peaks on the exact night of Metallic Meteor. And dust from Halley's Comet streaks the pre-dawn sky as the week closes with Satin & Silk Sunrise. Explore our full night-by-night sky guide and discover what's to come on this truly once-in-a-lifetime cruise.
Smash Mouth Will Headline Bliss Cruise’s Celestial Sailing in April 2027
FEATURED BUSINESS
Velvet Tribe Lifestyle Resort
Tucked along the Goa coast, Velvet Tribe is a discreet, adult-themed, river-front escape, situated just about 1 km from Morjim Beach, majestically overlooking the Chapora River, in the lush green attraction of North Goa, Morjim. This lifestyle hotel is only for the verified couples of the community and all bookings are done through online approvals. So no walk-ins and no unwanted crowd — just a calm and carefree platform with complete privacy.
We offer an array of accommodation options from economy to luxury, and all our rooms are well equipped with modern amenities and comfort. Being a lifestyle hotel, we cater to the various needs of our guests, with a dedicated activity room, steam room, a private party room and a poolside vibrant bar and deck.
Being very close to nature, we bring the sparkling waters of the Chapora River to your very door. Enjoy the sightings of exotic birds early in the morning by the riverside. Take a dip in our sizeable swimming pool, perfect for a relaxed sundowner.
We welcome you all with our warm hospitality, to experience the unimaginable. www.mumvel.com/hotel
FEATURED WEBINAR HOST
Colette Pienaar: The Goddess Academy
Midlife. Menopause. Desire. Identity. And absolutely no interest in behaving appropriately.
Colette Pienaar is the founder of The Goddess Academy, author of Menopause, Rewritten, coach, trainer and a 55-year-old woman who understands the lifestyle from the inside.
Yes, hormones matter. But midlife is about so much more.
Our bodies change. Confidence shifts. Relationships evolve. Desire can disappear, reappear or surprise the hell out of us.
And somewhere amongst it all comes the question:
What the fuck do I actually want now?
I'm here for the conversations we don't always have openly — bodies, sex, desire, relationships, boundaries, jealousy, shame, exploration and permission.
No judgment. No rules about how a woman should behave.
Come join Colette’s group, MIDLIFE UNFILTERED, where we're opening up these conversations, asking questions and figuring it all out together.
Learn more about Colette and join the guestlist for her first webinar, exclusively on SDC’s live streams!
FEATURED EXPERT
Nico Pierce
Nico Pierce has spent more than two decades writing about sex, relationships, desire and identity. It's messy, magnetic territory, and he wouldn't have it any other way.
As a writer and editor for SDC.com, he covers non-monogamy and the wider sex-positive lifestyle. Nico is most at home in the honest, unglamorous side of the lifestyle. That means the awkward first talk about opening up, the jealousy nobody saw coming, the boundary that needs rethinking after a night out and the practical details most guides skip.
Nico would rather tell you how things actually go than how they look on paper. His work bridges education and desire. He explains the how and the why without stripping out the heat, so readers come away better informed and a little more intrigued.
Whether he's easing someone through first-time nerves or helping partners communicate their desires with confidence, Nico writes with warmth and zero judgment. Long-time swingers and first-time explorers both get something useful from his work.
POPULAR
How to Have the Best Cuckold Experiences
Elevate your cucking experiences from good to unforgettable.
A truly great cuckolding experience tends to have a few things in common, and none of them are as complicated as you might think. Sometimes, the couples who walk away feeling closer and ready to do it again have figured out the details that deserve attention, where most people typically cut corners, and how to stay connected to each other through every stage of the experience.
Whether you're just getting started with the cuckold dynamic or you've had a handful of experiences and want to take things further, the same principles apply. The couples who get this right aren't doing anything dramatically different from those who don't. They're just paying closer attention to the details that tend to get glossed over in the excitement of the fantasy.
So let's get into what actually separates a good cuck experience from an unforgettable one, and how to make sure yours keeps getting better every time. READ MORE...
PARTIES AROUND THE WORLD
SDC SEXY MASQUERADE PARTY
Miami, FL
Saturday, November 7th, 2026
Doors Open at 10:00pm
Join SDC & Miami Velvet as we celebrate a night just for COUPLES AND SINGLE LADIES!
We are offering a FREE ONE DAY Membership for Couples On The SDC Guest List All Night Tonight
SDC.com Couples with screen names on the guest list are just $135 at the door!
DRESS IN THEME AND RECEIVE $15 OFF AT THE DOOR
Strict Dress Code Enforced
BYOB Private Club
Single Gents Welcome Except Saturdays
Join the Miami Velvet SDC Community for more information about upcoming Miami Velvet events and specials!
Seeking Venus
London, UK
Saturday, 14th November, 2026
A decade ago, we started an adventure. Since then, we've enjoyed 10 years of magic, building a secret world of sexuality and soul, kink and connection. After a SOLD OUT anniversary event in May, we continue the celebration of all we've shared, with a very special second party on November 14th.
SEEKING VENUS is an evening wrapped in theatricality, providing a range of experiences designed to provoke, intrigue and develop chemistry between guests. It brings together seekers from different scenes for an exploration of sexuality and soul, kink and connection. Our ethereal realm opens its doors very rarely, often only once a year, so come discover what has made our events so highly regarded...
WATCH OUR VIDEO FOR THE LAST EVENT HERE.
Our event looks to celebrate a more feminine sensuality. As such, anyone can attend, but only those presenting as female/femme may enter unaccompanied. Join via the website for ticket info, or become part of our community on SDC.
SDC Mixer @ Check Mate
Manhattan, NY
Friday, November 20, 2026
10pm - 4am
EROTICA FRIDAYS!
Beautiful couples and single girls only!
A high class, swanky setting for a fetish party where all your fetishes and fantasies are welcomed.
Full or soft swap, voyeurs, e erotica and much more..
New York City’s most fabulous adult lifestyle Friday night party.
Only prescreened attractive couples and single girls are allowed.
WE ARE MEMBERS ONLY!
SINGLE GIRLS ALWAYS FREE!
EROTICA is a party where all your fantasies will come true, come play, watch and be watched!
Come dance on our VIDEO Dance floor to the sounds of our live DJ
We are the club “Where the pretty people play”
ABSOLUTELY NO SINGLE MEN!
NO WALK INS
REGISTRATION ON OUR WEBSITE W/FULL BODY AND FACE PICTURE OF BOTH IS A MUST TO BE APPROVED.
All Sexy and Fit couples welcome!!! (Must be 21 and Over)
CHECKMATE is a members-only private club.
ALL GUEST MUST BE REGISTERED AS MEMBERS.
Visit our website for more info www.CheckmateNYC.com
SNEAK PEEK: NEW VENUE PLAY PARTY
Kansas City, MO
Saturday, November 21, 2026
THE SESSION 9:00 PM - 3:00 AM
We are sooooo excited to share a space for our play parties with the community.
Xclusive Xperiences has been working to give you xperiences and environments that are a bit different than everywhere else and this is one of our opportunities to do just that!
PRICING: We know that is always at the forefront of everything when choosing a space. For this event we have Early Bird & General Admission pricing... The choice is yours.
For more information please visit - www.Xxperiences.com/xxplay
SDC Leather & Latex Party
Fort Lauderdale, FL
Saturday, November 28th, 2026
8pm - 4am
Join us for the SDC Leather & Latex Party in Fort Lauderdale! Embrace the theme and show off your bold style in leather and latex. This event promises an electrifying atmosphere where you can connect and celebrate with fellow enthusiasts. Don't miss this unforgettable night!
Dress in theme for $5 OFF your nightly user fee!
Add yourself to the SDC Guest List (by 7:30pm day of the event) and get $5 OFF your Nightly User Fee.)
Come out and play at South Florida's best sex club!
Maximum discount is $10.
Don’t miss:
4-course Dinner Buffet
Late-night Breakfast Buffet
Unlimited non-alcoholic beverages
*Membership to Trapeze required.
THE FIFTH ELEMENT
Rome, Italy
Saturday 28 November, 2026
21:00 - 04:00
THE FIFTH ELEMENT - EROS PROTOCOL
There are four elements.
Earth, air, water, fire.
But tonight... the fifth is activated.
A hidden code, an energy that you can't see but can feel.
A call that crosses the body, the mind, the desire.
Welcome to the system.
Welcome to the Fifth Element.
An immersive experience where reality and desire merge in a neon universe, between fluorescent lights, invisible connections and cyber-sensory atmospheres.
Crossing the threshold of the Caveau you will enter a parallel dimension:
luminous threads, pulsating scenographics and an energy that flows between guests like a shared code.
Nothing is random here.
Every look is a signal.
Every contact is an input.
The Fifth Element is what happens when two energies recognize each other.
A journey between attraction, curiosity and freedom, designed for couples who want to experience something different, intense and out of the box.
Access is not for everyone!
Only for those who are ready to discover their fifth element. www.caveau.club
Stigma Parties Holiday "Ho Ho Ho!"
Orlando, FL
Saturday, December 5th, 2026
Making the holiday naughty! Come out for the year-end Holiday Ho Ho Ho party.
Wear your best winter attire, it's all fair game! Erotic Elf? Yes. Slutty Snowman?
Hoosier Daddy
Indianapolis IN
Friday - Sunday, December 11 - 13, 2026
Get ready to show who’s really in charge at Hoosier Daddy, a seductive kink-forward event that blends Midwest charm with unapologetic kink. Whether you’re a seasoned Dom, a bratty sub, or a curious couple ready to explore your power dynamics, this weekend is all about control, consent, and carnal connection.
Expect sultry scenes, expertly equipped playrooms, and live demonstrations that will make your pulse race. Explore the Impact Room, test your limits, or just watch the sparks fly between those who dare to play. Dress to impress — leather, latex, or lace — and let your inner Dominant (or submissive) take center stage.
Who’s your Daddy? Find out this weekend.
We are still working on the details for this event but you can expect:
- 221 All Suite Guest rooms with Separate Living Room & Bedroom
- 10,000 sq ft Convention Space
- Two-day Event
- COMPLETE Hotel, Restaurant & Bar TAKEOVER
- Eight Story Atrium transformed into a Players Paradise
- Friday Night Be Untamed Meet n Greet
- INCREDIBLE Sound, Lighting and LED Main Events
- Whole hotel BYOB
- Topless Optional Pool Parties
- Classes and Demonstrations
- DJ Errect & DJ Justintime Mixing on the Decks
- 24-Hour Access to the Indoor Pool
- Our FAMOUS Afterparty with Snacks
- Large Themed Playrooms
- Expanded Impact Room in PRIVATE Hotel Location
- Vendor Showcase
- Complimentary Drinks Nightly
- Complimentary Hot Breakfast Buffet including Omelet Station
- Complimentary Wi-Fi and Parking
We will be sharing a LOT more information as these dates get closer!!
ALL Lifestyle... ALL Inclusive... ALL Champagne
This isn’t just another party… It's where the Midwest comes to misbehave.