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Tips for Your (First) Swingers Date

Maddy V

Want to know if a couple is for real? In most cases the earlier you discuss meeting, the quicker 'fakes' stop contacting you since they have no intention of meeting anyone.

Want to know if a couple is for real? In most cases the earlier you discuss meeting, the quicker the "fakes" stop contacting you since they have no intention of meeting anyone.

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Make sure you know what you expect: Is it a dinner/drink date, or is there room for the first play?
Choose your meeting location well! If you just want to meet, a hotel room is not a good place.
If you’ve arranged a meet and greet or a play date, be punctual. Make sure you have exchanged phone numbers so you can call in case you're going to be late
Choose the right outfit. When you meet in a restaurant, you don't want to look too sexy. Wear whatever you would normally wear for an evening out. This goes for the both of you.
Mind the use of alcohol, especially when you drink to make you feel less nervous.
Don't put too much pressure on yourself and your partner.
Have an open mind and not-too-high expectations.
A play date? Take your own condoms, lube, and toys.
Be honest to your spouse, and to the other couple about the date.
Don't be afraid to make first contact afterwards.
Never tell other people the real identities of your dates or playmates.