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Swinging and polyamory are two types of open relationships, but there are so many more ways to explore being open! Whether you call it Ethical Non-Monogamy (ENM) or Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM), being in an open relationship can present different challenges for all the partners involved. Discover how to go from monogamy to an open relationship, how to talk to your partner about swinging and open relationships, what the swinging lifestyle and open lifestyles are really like, and much more. Whether you're a newbie to open relationships or a veteran ethical non-monogamist, you'll find resources to guide you.
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Talk Before You Touch: Communication that Makes Play Hotter
In the lifestyle, communication isn’t just about words; it’s about connection, trust, and keeping everyone on the same page.

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Cap d'Agde Desires, What’s in the Box, and How to Small Talk
Do you talk about your desires before going to a swingers club or swingers event? In this episode, Cate and Darrell share what they hope for at Cap d'Agde, a swingers mecca in France.

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Are Vanillas a Swingers Lifestyle Epidemic?
Cate & Darrell unpack their hot takes on dirty vanillas in the swinging lifestyle


Checkmate NYC Swingers Club
The Checkmate Manhattan Experience: Beyond The Velvet Ropes
One lucky couple gives their firsthand account of a night at one of New York City’s most exclusive swingers’ clubs that was so amazing, they sought a repeat performance the following night.

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How to Start a Conversation with Other Swingers
What to say (and what to avoid saying) in the swinging lifestyle.

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PREMIUM
Swinger Event Hosting Isn’t for the Weak
Is event hosting really worth it? What about the ick factors and drama couples? In this episode, Cate, Mickey, and Mallory peel back the layers and go behind the scenes to spill the tea!


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PREMIUM
Are DTF Couples Just More Fun?
Have you heard people refer to couples who are DTF as giving the ick?! Cate and Darrell break down DTF couples and ask the serious question — are they more fun?!

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Sexual Trauma and the Swinger Lifestyle: What You Need to Know
How can sexual past sexual trauma impact your or your partners' lifestyle journey? In this very important episode, Cate talks to a counselor! A must-listen for all lifestylers.

SDC Secrets Hideaway Swingers Lifestyle Resort Club
Secrets Hideaway: Uncovered!
Ready to let your inhibitions go and explore your sexual side?


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10 Swinging Tips For Single Men in the Lifestyle
A roadmap for single men ready to navigate and stand out in the swinging lifestyle.

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PREMIUM
Having Sex in a Maze, Swingers Cafe + KamaSutrA Beurs
A sex-positive convention with a maze where couples can have sex?! KamaSutrA is a convention in the Netherlands that SDC sponsors, and Cate and Darrell (our resident Aussie sluts) attend and have sex in a maze!!

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How to Not Get Laid at Swingers Events
Are you “social-sexual”ing your way out of play?


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PREMIUM
Rediscovering Soft Swap at Dutch Swingers Club Fun4Two
Are you a long-time full-swap couple who often rule out soft-swap profiles? Now is a time to reconsider that as Cate and Darrell share a recent soft swap at a swingers club and how hot it was!

 Caliente Clothing Optional Resort Open Lifestyle Destination
From Mild to Wild: Caliente’s Spicy Lifestyle
The bare truth about one of the world’s hottest clothing-optional destinations.

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What if One Partner Wants to Be a Swinger But the Other Doesn’t?
How do you handle it when your partner doesn’t want an open relationship, but you do?