Erotic Resurrection
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Webinar hosted by Maria del Sol Tamargo of EROTICGODMOTHER
Where is the plug to connect to EROS? Introducing The Erotic Godmother and the resources, potions, rituals, practices, ideas, WISDOM to embody the spirt of life.
Feeling, Not Thinking
The session opened with a guided practice. Participants placed their hands below the belly button, which Maria calls "portal number 2," and then on the heart. The instruction was to notice sensation, such as warmth, openness, tension, or softness, rather than thoughts or memories. Her key phrase was "feeling, not thinking."
She then asked participants to put a question to the heart: "What do you need from me?" This was followed by a second question: "Can I give you my attention before asking someone else to give me theirs?" For Maria, this is where love begins, with loving yourself first.
Eroticism Does Not Begin With Sex
One of her core redefinitions was clear: "Erotic resurrection does not begin with sex." It begins with the ability to feel your own skin. Music, water, smell, nature, art, an idea, or a memory can all be erotic, because eroticism is the signal "I am alive."
She describes eroticism as an art form that requires "sensitivity, attention, practice, discernment, imagination, presence, and mastery," rather than an uncontrolled explosion. Her 35 years as a photographer, beginning with her first camera at age 15, shaped this view. She realized her true interest was nature and human nature, and that she had learned "not to simply look… to perceive."
To illustrate the difference between the erotic and the sexual, she offered a memorable line: "Having paint does not make a painting." High energy alone does not make a great lover, and simply "delivering" is sexual, not erotic. Eroticism, in her words, is "the art, the poetry behind connection."
You Are Nature
A self-described born rebel who challenged everything she was told, Maria shared that recent years have humbled her. "There is no arguing with Mother Nature," she said. She calls herself "wild and free," and reminds listeners that "you don't bring your body to nature, you are nature."
The body runs on rhythms: sleep and waking, hunger and satisfaction, expansion and contraction, giving and receiving. She likens these to ocean waves and the heartbeat.
Her gardener metaphor brought this home. You can't demand that a rose bloom on a given day, but you can ask whether it needs water, light, time or rest. Saying "I love myself" isn't enough. Real self-love begins with "I am paying attention" and noticing where you're depleted and where you're overflowing. Her summary: "Listen before you interfere or you give away yourself."
Water, Fire, and Respecting Power
Maria argues that fire makes a person sexual, not sensual, and that eroticism also needs water, which receives and adapts. Like a tiny drop shaping a cave formation over time, sensuality grows through patience. "If I cannot feel myself, how can I truly share myself?"
Fire still deserves respect. Maria has had several near-death experiences from not tending hers, and warns that people "use and abuse" eroticism, "burning your life away."
She frames this without judgment: "There is no punishment, there is no right, there is no wrong, but there are consequences." Respect begins with yourself, then extends to your partner.
Owning Your Life Force
"My fire belongs to me. It is mine before I share it." With this statement, Maria encouraged listeners to feel strong desire without immediately needing someone else to resolve it. Instead, she suggested holding and questioning that energy as a source of vitality. "The more you give it away, the more you lose," she said.
This works differently for men and women, and she cautioned women against taking in energy that could be toxic to "the treasure, rose, diamond that you are." She also warned about depletion more broadly.
Maria urged extra care, particularly in online settings, and invited the audience to ask: "Who is that person? Where is the hunger coming from?"
Love as a Practice
For Maria, love is not just an emotion. "Love is attention, love is nourishment, love is rest. Love is a boundary." Saying no, or "enough," even to yourself, can be an act of love.
She offered a series of reframing questions. Before asking "Who can satisfy me?", ask what you need. Before asking "Who will love me?", ask "How am I loving the life entrusted to me?" Before sharing your fire, ask "Can I hold it?" A related shift she encouraged was moving from "Who will love me, want me, touch me?" to "How am I nourishing the life that is given to me?"
The rose plays a special role in her work. She calls roses her "magic wand" and energetic allies, symbols of love, beauty, sensuality, mystery, and opening. She encouraged attendees to "have a rose every day."
The Elemental Map of Erotic Resurrection
Maria gathered her teachings into an elemental framework:
Water is sensitivity: "I feel."
The rose is love: "I nourish."
Fire is eroticism: "I tend to my life force."
Copal smoke is devotion and the invisible, spiraling spirit: "I listen, I give my energy meaning."
The body is "the study room," and nature is the teacher "we don't argue with." Ultimately, she says, eroticism becomes "devotion to life," a way of inhabiting the body more consciously rather than escaping it.
Building the Bridge Between Desire and Love
Her erotic intelligence exercise begins with one hand on the lower belly, where sexual energy lives, and one on the heart, creating a "bridge" between desire and love. Participants then ask: "Does what I desire also nourish my heart?" and "Can my heart listen to my desire without judging?" Erotic intelligence, she says, is "not heart against sexuality and not sexuality without a heart."
A second practice uses the same hand positions with new questions, like "What does my body need from me?" and "What fire am I ready to take responsibility for?" The goal isn't becoming more sexual but becoming more sensitive and alive. Her sequence: feel, nourish, regulate, choose, create and then share.
Healing From the Inside Out
Maria spoke openly about her own journey. Her second divorce left her feeling like a failure, with her sexuality and body unnourished. Through therapy, she realized she'd expected a partner to fill old wounds in her heart.
Don't give your body away hoping "somebody else's embrace will glue me back together." As she put it, "You do that to yourself." She finds her way back by connecting with her heart and nourishing her body, because "light is always present, and I resurrect."
After a severe accident last November, she's come to see her scar as a gift that helps her "see more." While she admits, "I can conquer the world after a beautiful orgasm," she feels most connected when intimacy is shared heart-to-heart. The only relationship that's yours forever is the one with yourself and your body.
Harmony as the Final Word
Maria described the session as "only the first threshold," with deeper sessions available in her community. During the Q&A, she posed prompts like "Where in your life does your fire need more love?" and "What are you asking another person to provide that your body might be asking you to cultivate?"
Her vitality advice was refreshingly practical: eat right, sleep well, make love and connect your sex with your heart. A person in harmony, she said, is healthier and makes better choices. She closed the session the way she lives her message, repeating one word: "harmony, harmony, harmony."
Original webinar was live-streamed on SDC.com on Saturday, August 22nd, 2026
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